Monday 24 December 2012

To the newbies in BDSM in India


In my opinion there has been always a sense of domination and submission in the Indian society. But only now, many people are coming out and expressing it in online communities. Sure with more people coming out and discussing, munches are also increasing.

But the wired part is with more BDSM content in the internet and many indians accepting themselves, more people are also getting desperate to get a partner of their liking. All I wana say them is patience is more valuable than frustration.

I feel there are at least  two kinds of people who get frustrated and depressed in search of BDSM:


A) I have come across many people who just get fond of tying up a partner or slapping them etc and assume it to be the BDSM relationship. It is much more than that. Thats y i made the "What is BDSM" post prior to this. Its not just hurting. The word domination is meant so cheap in the outer world. But in the BDSM world its more responsibility than just taking your frustration on your partner.

So if you just want to shell out your anger on someone, first try a mirror or run to a lonely place and scream.

Still if you think only beating up a person is what you want (Agsin that is not BDSM relationship), then just do it online... there r so many ppl in orkut and fb to do / take only this. Dont look for a real life partner just for this.

B) This is the kind who had learnt about what a real BDSM relationship is. But they waited waited and waited in BDSM communities, orkut, fb etc to find a real life partner. But couldnt succeed. If you belong to this class you would have known that BDSM is not just beating up or being dominated by. It takes two souls to unite and share the thoughts.

Here, let me ask you - "how many of your real world friends know that you are in this lifestyle?" 
So its certainly less discussed front. So it takes time. This is to even discuss it to a best friend in your life. Imagine discussing it to a new one in your life. May be I cant convince you... the wait is necessary.  But dont just get hung up in internet profiles and chats....

Try communities... learn...

At last you will realize that if you gain the confidence of a person with your care and love... they will become what you want; either your sub or dom. So just go out.... find a person u like... spend time... see whether you can be that much caring and loving to them to take them to the next level.

Once you make someone share just one of their sexual fantasy, then the other things pour out... and you will try them and continue pushing the limits...

The truth is as accepted by many, people dont know their submissive side till its exposed. Once exposed by a deserving partner, it never goes away if you could maintain the heat and passion in your relationship.


cheers,
Master Raj.


1 comment:

  1. You are right,people dont know their submissive side till its exposed. when i realised by submissive nature, i was both scared and happy. But when there was no one to nurture it, i has hidden it with a layer of being stong and independent outside.

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