Monday 24 December 2012

To the newbies in BDSM in India


In my opinion there has been always a sense of domination and submission in the Indian society. But only now, many people are coming out and expressing it in online communities. Sure with more people coming out and discussing, munches are also increasing.

But the wired part is with more BDSM content in the internet and many indians accepting themselves, more people are also getting desperate to get a partner of their liking. All I wana say them is patience is more valuable than frustration.

I feel there are at least  two kinds of people who get frustrated and depressed in search of BDSM:


A) I have come across many people who just get fond of tying up a partner or slapping them etc and assume it to be the BDSM relationship. It is much more than that. Thats y i made the "What is BDSM" post prior to this. Its not just hurting. The word domination is meant so cheap in the outer world. But in the BDSM world its more responsibility than just taking your frustration on your partner.

So if you just want to shell out your anger on someone, first try a mirror or run to a lonely place and scream.

Still if you think only beating up a person is what you want (Agsin that is not BDSM relationship), then just do it online... there r so many ppl in orkut and fb to do / take only this. Dont look for a real life partner just for this.

B) This is the kind who had learnt about what a real BDSM relationship is. But they waited waited and waited in BDSM communities, orkut, fb etc to find a real life partner. But couldnt succeed. If you belong to this class you would have known that BDSM is not just beating up or being dominated by. It takes two souls to unite and share the thoughts.

Here, let me ask you - "how many of your real world friends know that you are in this lifestyle?" 
So its certainly less discussed front. So it takes time. This is to even discuss it to a best friend in your life. Imagine discussing it to a new one in your life. May be I cant convince you... the wait is necessary.  But dont just get hung up in internet profiles and chats....

Try communities... learn...

At last you will realize that if you gain the confidence of a person with your care and love... they will become what you want; either your sub or dom. So just go out.... find a person u like... spend time... see whether you can be that much caring and loving to them to take them to the next level.

Once you make someone share just one of their sexual fantasy, then the other things pour out... and you will try them and continue pushing the limits...

The truth is as accepted by many, people dont know their submissive side till its exposed. Once exposed by a deserving partner, it never goes away if you could maintain the heat and passion in your relationship.


cheers,
Master Raj.


Sunday 16 December 2012

Whats BDSM?


BDSM is not about whips, canes, objectification, blood, water sport etc. It is not about abuse, hurt, locking your submissive in cage hearing her screams in agony and shame, it is not constant stupid punishment and inflecting of blind pain with no reason. it is not about using your submissive then throw her away when you board and search for new one , it is not about kinky sex. BDSM is simply way deeper than this. 

It comes from simple fundamental idea of two people who have mutual love on each other and where the love builds into a state of mind where you trust your partner unconditionally that what ever they do wont hurt you instead it will pleasure you to your core...

For a dom / master it is about knowing that your submissive is a human being who has dreams, emotions, heart and limits, it is about building up each other with pleasure, love and joy of knowing you share something that no one else understand as much as you both do, it is about feeling the spark of your Domination meeting her submission and work together perfectly against all odds and problems that life and hatred community throw at you.

It is about the peace you feel inside knowing you don't need to force anything because you already inspired your submissive to love what you do with her and how she is feel cherished and loved in ways no other can offer, it is about trusting yourself and your partner completely with everything you have knowing you put them in a position that they can hurt you but knowing they won't because they gave you the same, it is about knowing that you respect your submissive because she strong person that gave you all their life and being to pleases you. 

BDSM is about all what above and more and once you understand that you will know that this lifestyle offer safe heaven to everyone embracing it where either it is something extreme or light , there is always something for everyone and no matter what your desires are , you will find someone out there that share it with you.