My theory on evolution (of BDSM of course)

Well its like different ppl have different level of passion for various things.

 

For example: one of my neighbors hates cricket; for a friend - its ok to watch while others in her home watch, I try to watch most India matches and i hv some friends who r so mad of cricket that they will watch all matches involving any country.

 

Similarly people with most passion in their love life... start with passionate - deep kissing which turn into love bites which move to little spanking and so on...

 

so its the mutual passion that drives the thought of kink and BDSM...  and its the mutual trust that makes it happen for the couple... 

 

Mere passion wont make it happen in a relationship... its the trust that adds value to the relationship... So any couple with mutual trust and passion for their love life will move to BDSM slowly and its the mutual sharing and proper communication that keeps them exploring their fantasies and the so called dark side... 

So, this I think is the evolution of BDSM - passion - kiss --> deep kiss --> love bites and depending on their fantasies it goes on; Add mutual trust that the dominant partner will not do any harm takes it to spank, pinch etc - and with mutual communication of what they like(d) lead them to understand and strengthen the bond and the spice of their love life... coz BDSM is not a harassment after all, its a consensual relationship between passionate, trustworthy and truly communicating partners!!!